I have never tried online dating sites, not because I don’t trust them but because I haven’t had the need to. However, I do know some friends who have been using sites such as Match.com, eHarmony.com and other free versions such as OKCupid.com.
I personally think online dating sites are great creations for busy singles in modern society to meet more eligible candidates or friends. It opens up another outlet for people to meet while they fail to meet people in their busy or sometimes, boring lives. Nevertheless, there is no guarantee you will find a match. What is more interesting is there are myths surrounding online dating sites that I think people should realize before they embrace this new medium.
1. Online Dating is not superficial: Wrong! Online dating is totally superficial. You need to post pictures (preferably more than one) so the users know you are not too ugly, fat, thin, pretty or dorky looking for them. It is true that they also match you based on other important traits BUT most users want to see the pictures to construct an image of you.
2. Online Dating eliminates those crazy nut jobs or weirdos: WRONG! Online dating is a microscope of our society where most people are pretty damn crazy and/or weird! Don’t think filling out 100 questionnaires online could stop thse weirdos from approaching you. I mean, seriously, when they ask you what your body type is? Do you really put obese? or overweight?
3. Online Dating is easier than offline dating: To a degree, I would say yes. It is easier to ask touchy subjects, to ponder what, who and when to write/respond and to ignore people you don’t want to contact. However, I believe it is harder to tell a person’s true emotion in words if he or she decides not to express through words. Also, what a person writes does not necessarily represent how he/she really acts. More importantly, people sometimes misinterpret words and eventually they got lost in translation.
Despites all these myths, I still believe that online dating provides hopes and promises for people who are seeking love and friendship online. It is with caution, openness, and the right attitude that online dating can possibly deliver your true match.
Do you have a good online dating story to share?